Sex so important to marriage: Malawi clergy speak on impotence provision

Marriage is more than sex just as singing is more than making noise but you can’t sing if you can’t make noise and you can’t be married if you can’t have sex.  Malawi religious leaders have backed the legal provision of the Marriage, Divorce and Family Relations Bill which provides grounds for annulling a marriage, if one partner is impotent.

marriage, by its very nature, requires the possibility of sexual intercourse.

Marriage, by its very nature, requires the possibility of sexual intercourse.

Impotence refers to the inability to have sexual intercourse while infertility or sterility refers to the inability to procreate. For example, a healthy woman who has a hysterectomy is infertile but not impotent. In contrast, a woman who has a vagina that cannot accommodate the male member is impotent but she may still be able to become pregnant through illicit means like artificial insemination or IVF. This means she is not infertile even though she is impotent.

The religious leaders have backed the provision which stipulated that marriage can be annulled on the grounds of impotence.

They argue that marriage has to be free, it also has to be a full and total gift of self, which includes the bodily gift of self through intercourse.

“If one is impotent, marriage cannot be there. If that impotence is by nature, that person cannot be allowed to enter into marriage,” said Father Emmanuel Chimombo, who is acting publicity secretary of the Episcopal Conference of Malawi (ECM), as quoted by The Nation.

Commenting in his personal capacity but of course advancing the stand of Catholic church, Chimombo said the Catholic Church considers marriage as a Sacrament that has a number of effects.

The Catholic Church says a cohabiting situation would be a near-occasion of sin for a couple that is striving to lead a non-sexual relationship because one partner is impotent, which includes abstinence from all forms of sexual arousal.

While critics say impotent couple can licitly engage in sexual activity they are physically able to enjoy such as passionate kissing, fondling, mutual masturbation and oral stimulation, the church feels   a married couple that engages in arousing activities must complete the act through intercourse or they will have sinned.

Reducing sex to only oral stimulation and mutual masturbation is like reducing eating to only chewing and tasting food without digesting it. It distorts the purpose of these acts and takes them out of their proper orientation towards being a total gift of self through life-giving love

But CCAP Livingstonia Synod’s general secretary the Reverend Levi Nyondo said marriage is not only about bearing children through sexual intercourse.

“As Christians, we draw our lessons from the Bible. Look at the story of Abraham and Sarah; they had a child after living together for 100 years without one.

“There are couples that have been blessed with a child after staying together for more than five years, and what if they had taken action within two years of their marriage to divorce? How many divorces were we going to witness? Who defines permanent impotent, anyway?”

The new bill, in Section 77 (1), states that the grounds for nullification of a marriage may be “that the respondent [the one sued] was permanently impotent at the time of marriage” or “that the respondent was at the time of the marriage suffering from a sexually transmitted infection”.

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vyaboza
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A chimombo akunama iwowo kuti abadwee mesa panali chikondi chomwe mayi awo anawonesa kwa abambo awo.Kugwa mu love iz about sex

Ellias makandanje
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No sex before marriage, how will the other partner know whether she or he is permanently impotent?

CHIPEMPHELERE
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Dear people!The bible is not exhaustive on this one.But rather it is simply a guide to a rightful and successful marriage.And remember there are many more non-christians out there living a better and successful family life than christians themselves.The origins and objectives of marriage need simply to be human,honest,faithful and rightly purposeful; not just for sexual relief,lust or merely as a population control measure.That’s why consumational rite on the night after blessing the marriage is vitally important to precautionary check if the just married couple are indeed capable of performing and enjoying a sexual activity then and thereafter.Marriage therefore should… Read more »
CHIPEMPHELERE
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May I ask traditional,religious,civil and the intellectuals to properly re-define marriage for our parliamentarians as Malawi, disgustingly, continue to westernise;legalizing sodomy(mathanyula) christened “gay marriage” and very soon beastiality(kugona chiweto eg mbuzi or galu) also christened “interspecies love” by the west.

Wagwa nayo
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Kkkkkkk kwavutatu ku Malawi kkkkkkkkkk Congrates Rev osati zomafotokoza asakudziwa kawonedwe ka nsalu kkkk

Tongozala
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Father Chimombo ndimayesa ndi sakwata. Ndiye akugunduka kunamiza anthu za marriege ngati iyeyo akuzidziwa. Ngakhale akulu amati kuwona fisi sikubadwa kale, komabe iyeyo ali sakwata angawuze mtundu wa a Malawi za mbanja? Marriege is not zowerenga ma bukhu ai. I stand to be corrected, mamaka a Katolika

One Loves
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Sono the lady in picture nyere nde yafika pa 99% ready to be fucked!

KING SOLOMONS WISDOM
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IN THIS WORLD THERE ARE CHRISTIANS ON ONE HAND AND RELIGIOUS PPLE O THE OTHER,RELIGIOUS LEADERS ON ONE HAND AND CHRISTIAN LEADERS ON THE OTHER.EVEN IN TIME OF JESUS IT WAS THE SAME.QUESTION-WHERE WOULD U RATHER BE?

Mr @sms
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Zanga Phee!
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It clear shows that on that Calender that Themba was crying for had that picture of couple on top of the this story.How big is this issue is in the country so that it can be referred as a problem statistically.We need sensitive issue in the august House Please.See my name.

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