Many times people have lived miserable lives because of the people that have constantly tarnished their good image by making people believe they are bad people, liars, boasters, self centered, and many names that they have used to tarnish their good image. I want to encourage those people today that this is not something to worry about because God does not look at you in that way. You are not in this world to live a life that should please anybody, apart from God almighty. The word of God tells us that one cannot please both men and God at the same time (Galatians1:10).
People should understand that we are all unique based on how God has created us. You may be thinking that someone is self centered just because they are not associating, or talking to people much. What you are forgetting is that the person you are calling self centered has been created by God, and has been fearfully and wonderfully made in God’s image. Why not get close to them than just judge them from a distance then you will know them and understand that they are just normal people.
Mathew 7:5 tells us to cast out the beam out of our own eyes; and then we shall see clearly to cast out the mote out of our brother’s eye. All this is simple instruction that we should not be looking for fault or wrong doing in the lives of our friends, because we all have our own garbage that needs to continuously taken care of that if we start carrying our friend’s garbage on top of what we already have, it will be too much on us that we will not be able to carry.
This is why when the Scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery Jesus responded by telling them that “He who is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her” (John 8:1-11). This just shows us that, no matter how holy, or spirit filled we think we are, we are still a work in progress in the eyes of God therefore we do not have any authority to be judging others.
The fact that we are able to address others shortfalls portrays the truth that our personal situation is worse than the people we try to assassinate their character.
If you are living this kind of life of celebrating or enjoying making others feel sad because you have given them names, maybe it is time you go back to the basics of life which is love. If you can love your friends just like the way Jesus has commanded us, then you will not be comfortable to give names to your friends.
The bible talks about a Pharisee and Publican who both went into the temple to pray. The bible tells us that “The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself.” This means that his prayer got no further than himself even though it was directed toward God because it was not heard by God. This is because he kept on mentioning the sins of others, while the publican told God simple and plain that he was a sinner. This is a prayer that was heard by God because it was not a self righteous prayer but a prayer that was based upon atonement.
Today, if we are very much into judging others, let us ask God to change us and help look at others with the love just like God looks on us with love despite all our failures and junk that we are still working on. If we have been victims of such people, continue with your life as long as you know you are living according to the will of God. You do not have to please them, but please your God. Let God alone be the judge in everything, and not man.