OK good amalawi Tagwirizana ku letsa chinkhoswe eti. Can i push for a bill in Parliament?
Boyd Kilembey
8 years ago
The author should also have considered “lobola” which has become a cash cow for “pimps”. I cant withstand this practice which equates to modern day trafficking of human beings. Lobola made sense then when communities had that communal fabric, not these days of cloud computing and Ipads and material gains.
Nangozo
8 years ago
I totally agree with the writer. Our society is one of the poorest and yet we do things to make ourselves even poorer. It is our poor minds which make us do such things. Those with rich minds are the ones that do simple engagements and sometimes even simple weddings.
Unfortunately even those who do not have enough money go to the extent of borrowing so that they do a function like somebody else did.
Poor Malawi
8 years ago
No only Chinkhoswe but also engagements and weddings. These events have become viable fundraising/businesses in Malawi. They provide livelihood to many Malawian DJs, MCs, Photographers, Cake Makers, Car Hire companies, churches (bez couples to be pay something to churches) and above all couple-to-be. No wonder, marriage separation or divorce rates are increasing at an alarming rate. But the question is: Who prescribed that people should be undergoing such stages when getting married? How did our forefathers: Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, etc do whenever their daughters and sons were getting married? I know many will answer negatively because their livelihood is attacked.… Read more »
That is Why in Tumbuka, we do not recognise Chinkhoswe……chikhoswe?????****XXXX!!!!!! and if you see any Tumbuka or any other NORTHERNER calling you for Chinkhoswe or chikhoswe as him what it means in his or her tribe context……..ndiwadyera chabe……we do not know it and we have our own CIVILIZED way of making parents know each other not the Mafia way of Chinkhoswe/chikhoswe!!!!
Legally, chinkhoswe is traditional marriage. Then the church wedding is for Xtians. The law recognises marriage ngati pali chinkhoswe even without a church wedding.
Personally I feel having a big chinkhoswe and church wedding is a duplication. A couple should choose one big function . Even if it’s seen as fundraising, alot of coupls have fallen into debt at the beginning of their marriage because they bank on pelekani kuti abweze ngongole.
Things have gone haywire!
Alinafe
8 years ago
Kodi akutinso ku befinde (birthday) kukumakhala kufupa….befinde ya mwana wa zaka ziwiri…pelekanipelekani? Akuti banja lina linathawa likukakamizidwa kufupa…analibe ndalama and they did not know kuti ku befinde kukumafupidwa. kungoti ku Malawi ndalama sizimavuta kupeza. kukhala maiko amzathuwa….aaaah . ukajomba kuntchito for 2 days, those 2 days no pay… amadula…pomwe ku Malawi olo osapita kuntchito 15 days, ulandira ya 30 days….so koseweletsa ndalama kwina ndikumeneko ku befinde, chinkhoswe, shower. pasavute, zipitilire izi, ndalama sivuto
nabiyeni
8 years ago
Every thing has become a money thing. Zinkhoswe, dzikwati, baby shower, akuti kitchen top up and even machalichi. Kodi for someone to b recognized u hv to pay money?? To b buried and have church mass u hv to hv paid money then only will u hv a rousing send off. Most of this has been created by greed. Many years ago there was none of this. Did Jesus hv to pay for his burial? Did the people during that era count who was present it didn’t matter. But today almost every gathering has become a money grabbing event. U… Read more »
pent
8 years ago
Chinkhoswe is just one of the traditional events whise value has been replaced by a mere gratification for nmoney
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Lobola is primitive
OK good amalawi Tagwirizana ku letsa chinkhoswe eti. Can i push for a bill in Parliament?
The author should also have considered “lobola” which has become a cash cow for “pimps”. I cant withstand this practice which equates to modern day trafficking of human beings. Lobola made sense then when communities had that communal fabric, not these days of cloud computing and Ipads and material gains.
I totally agree with the writer. Our society is one of the poorest and yet we do things to make ourselves even poorer. It is our poor minds which make us do such things. Those with rich minds are the ones that do simple engagements and sometimes even simple weddings.
Unfortunately even those who do not have enough money go to the extent of borrowing so that they do a function like somebody else did.
No only Chinkhoswe but also engagements and weddings. These events have become viable fundraising/businesses in Malawi. They provide livelihood to many Malawian DJs, MCs, Photographers, Cake Makers, Car Hire companies, churches (bez couples to be pay something to churches) and above all couple-to-be. No wonder, marriage separation or divorce rates are increasing at an alarming rate. But the question is: Who prescribed that people should be undergoing such stages when getting married? How did our forefathers: Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, etc do whenever their daughters and sons were getting married? I know many will answer negatively because their livelihood is attacked.… Read more »
That is Why in Tumbuka, we do not recognise Chinkhoswe……chikhoswe?????****XXXX!!!!!! and if you see any Tumbuka or any other NORTHERNER calling you for Chinkhoswe or chikhoswe as him what it means in his or her tribe context……..ndiwadyera chabe……we do not know it and we have our own CIVILIZED way of making parents know each other not the Mafia way of Chinkhoswe/chikhoswe!!!!
Legally, chinkhoswe is traditional marriage. Then the church wedding is for Xtians. The law recognises marriage ngati pali chinkhoswe even without a church wedding.
Personally I feel having a big chinkhoswe and church wedding is a duplication. A couple should choose one big function . Even if it’s seen as fundraising, alot of coupls have fallen into debt at the beginning of their marriage because they bank on pelekani kuti abweze ngongole.
Things have gone haywire!
Kodi akutinso ku befinde (birthday) kukumakhala kufupa….befinde ya mwana wa zaka ziwiri…pelekanipelekani? Akuti banja lina linathawa likukakamizidwa kufupa…analibe ndalama and they did not know kuti ku befinde kukumafupidwa. kungoti ku Malawi ndalama sizimavuta kupeza. kukhala maiko amzathuwa….aaaah . ukajomba kuntchito for 2 days, those 2 days no pay… amadula…pomwe ku Malawi olo osapita kuntchito 15 days, ulandira ya 30 days….so koseweletsa ndalama kwina ndikumeneko ku befinde, chinkhoswe, shower. pasavute, zipitilire izi, ndalama sivuto
Every thing has become a money thing. Zinkhoswe, dzikwati, baby shower, akuti kitchen top up and even machalichi. Kodi for someone to b recognized u hv to pay money?? To b buried and have church mass u hv to hv paid money then only will u hv a rousing send off. Most of this has been created by greed. Many years ago there was none of this. Did Jesus hv to pay for his burial? Did the people during that era count who was present it didn’t matter. But today almost every gathering has become a money grabbing event. U… Read more »
Chinkhoswe is just one of the traditional events whise value has been replaced by a mere gratification for nmoney