Bishop Sitima gives tips to enjoying married life

A lot of the problems that couples face can be fixed if both people can just change the things that they focus on in their marriage, His Grace Bishop Montfort Stima of Mangochi Diocese of the Roman Catholic Church has said.

Bishop Stima: Torelance is key

Bishop Stima: Torelance is key

Bishop Sitima said this when he led 30th anniversary celebrations of a christian movement, Worldwide Marriage Encounter-Malawi of the Catholic church.

“Instead of focusing on what your partner does that annoys you, remind yourself of the things that you enjoy about him or her. So many people look for negatives even when surrounded by positives,” observed Sitima.

He also said marriage is a basic foundation of any society that requires tolerance and understanding.

“Always remember that what God has joined together, no human being must separate,” he emphasized, adding that couples should be taking time to appreciate each other.

On his part, Mayor for Blantyre City, Noel Chalamanda, who was the guest of honour, said the sacrament of marriage is of great importance to the church and the society for it is through this sacrament that families are built and are leaven to society.

He also said marriage is still necessary in today’s modern society and best form of unit for bringing up children.

“We cannot talk of a church and society without families.  The church is there because of families, as such our lives should be in tandem with the scriptures,” said Chalamanda.

The Christian movement has existed in the country for the last 30 years and it is aimed at giving spouses the opportunity to examine their life together and help them refresh and renew their marriage and take their marriage to an even deeper and more satisfying level.

It also focus on the development of an open and honest relationship within marriage, and learning to live out a sacramental relationship in the service of others.

In Malawi, the Worldwide Marriage Encounter Movement came in 1985 through the instrumentality of His Lordship, the late Bishop Matthias Chimole, who sponsored some couples and priests to do their first Original Weekend in Zambia, and came back to start it in Lilongwe, the same year,1985.

Under the late Bishop Chiona’s patronage the movement was introduced to Blantyre, southern region in 1992 and Mzuzu in 1990.

The Movement is open to couples in stable family relationship, Catholic priests, sisters and brothers, and Christian couples from other churches.

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If marriage is such a wonderful institution, why is the Bishop not married? The Catholic Church should allow its priests and bishops to marry so that they can give a good example of what marriage should be. A celibate priest/bishop can only theorise about marriage; he is preaching from a vacuum, he is not of the real world.


Advisers do no need to have experience but analytical minds. Why do politicians go to the church for advice as if the PAC members have been politicians before? Oftentimes a person who is outside the problem can see better than the one who is involved in the problem. If a married person advises another, it will be from his experience and bad experience negatively can influence your outlook. A divorced woman will not side with a cheating husband unless if she has bad intentions against the fellow woman.

Mr Khombe

Iwe TT, ndiwe wopusa kwambiri, ndiwe chitsiru chofunika operation ya m’mutu kuti udziganiza molongosoka, ndiwe ndani iwe? Ngati watumidwa angokunyozetsa chifukwa akuyankhulawa ndi anthu a nzeru zawo. Umfiti eti? Kudana ndi chilichonse chabwino bwanji?


Only God knows.

Mirella K

Akatolika ndie mwajijilikatu…Defending what you shouldn’t even defend at all! Honestly speaking it is silly on your part too to argue kuti the bishop is knowledgeable about marriages simply because he grew in a family! Very silly! Accept that what he has advised are nothing but theories he has memorized when he was at school and what he has heard in radios and read from books n newspapers. He has NO experience on it (serve for…….) and he is not morally justified to sound so angelic on a social issue he has despised in life!

chidongo John
Iwe Mai Mai ndi mbuli zizako zonse ndi agalu. Or mutayankhula zoipa zotani za church chakatolika simungathe kuchiphwasura ndipo chikulira kulira dziko lonse lapansi ndipo Yesu mwini wake ndiye founder. Ona encyclopedia ya katolika pa internate. Ndipo ndi mpingo okhawo umene umakhala serious pa nkhani ya banja ndipo siunyengera kuti aaa timanga ukwati wachiwiri. Maziko abanja agona kukatolika , usiye abishop alankhule kwa mpingo.Iwe ngati siukonda mpongowo nkhala sitipakampeni Ife akatolika.ndipo ndati siulitha mpang’ono pomwe or utatemetsa nkhwangwa pa mwala. Utaya nthawi yako pachabe. Halve yanthu padziko lapasi la mkatolika. Bravo a Bishop. Wakula ekelezia wakula. Mai Mai ndi azako… Read more »

A Catholic priest giving tips on how to enjoy married life, sounds silly. It’s like a virgin giving sex tips. What the hell does he know about marriage?


Stupid iweyoo, ndiponso idiot. Catholic Priest and so as other Church Elders. You think they go to school to read Bible. Your comment already they know how goat you are in the head because they have studied all about Vocations in life and your goat head. They are equipped with all answers of marriage and any work you name it. So don’t write because you can. Sleep now

Good call Bishop. I only hope you have the means to read my comment about the attitude in the Catholic Church of turning a blind eye to sins detailed in the Holy Bible. This is contributing a lot to marriages breaking in my view. It is now common to see separated or divorced congregants not being helped through biblical teaching and continuing to live in sin in the Catholic Church these days. Similar misconduct is not tolerated in other reputable churches including ku Chisilamu. And Please discipline your clergy. It is embarrassing for a Catholic priest to be apprehended by… Read more »

Enanu mungoonetsa umbuli wanu when you say an unmarried Bishop can not give advice on marriage! Do you think ku ma Theological College amangophunzitsa Bible basi? It’s better to shut up if you don’t have anything to comment!!

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