Kaliati says Malawi teen girls shouldn’t be bridal shower dancers

October 9, 2014 Malawi News Agency 132 Comments

Minister of Gender, Children, Disability and Social Welfare Patricia Kaliati has warned against using young girls as dancing queens during bridal showers, stressing such practice fuels immoral behaviour among girls.

Bridal shower is a gift-giving party held for a bride-to-be in anticipation of her wedding and also incorporates veterans who advise the bride to be on useful topics including sexuality and HIV-AIDS, household management, financial management, nutrition and communication.

Kaliati: Do not abuse young girls
Kaliati: Do not abuse young girls

It has been a tradition in Malawi to use young girls during bridal showers as dancing queens to spice up the events.

Kaliati said it was unfortunate that while  government was instituting different mechanisms to promote the wellbeing of a girl child, others  were busy using  them as dancing queens during bridal showers.

“I am not against the bridal showers but I am very concerned with how organisers use young girls to dance for the bride to be while they are almost naked.

“This is one of the reasons why our young girls are indulging in immoral behaviours such as premarital sex that end up in early marriages,” said bemoaned.

She added: “I don’t see any reason why young girls should patronize such functions because the presenters choose topics that are related to sex and at the end the girls tend to practice what they have heard.”

The Gender Minister then warned of unspecified action should the trend continue.

“This is a serious issue and that is why the gender ministry is doing everything to ensure that young girls are protected from any sort of abuses.

“So, if we are to remain tight lipped on such issues, it means that we have allowed such immoral behaviours to be transferred from one generation to another which is very unfortunate,” said Kaliati.

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132 replies on “Kaliati says Malawi teen girls shouldn’t be bridal shower dancers”

  1. Kodi mai kaliati, mutiwona tiyana tija amatidikulisa dzulo? Pamaso pa mai getrude aja a beam? Chonsechotu panalibepo mwan wa kaliati, chaponda, henry mua, namathanga, mwananveka, fabiano. Iwowo ana awo ali kunja ku mauniversit, ku st andrews, ku KA.

  2. Kodi pa bridal shower ndi pa Mulhakho pamene anthu amatota kwambiri ndi pati? Chonde akweni think of this also….!!!

  4. Ngati mukumagulisa Gondolosi kumisonkhano yanu ya chilomwe..mungasiye kubelekana ngati mbewa chonchi…uku tiasikana tanu tikuonesa ma bele pamtunda mukutivinisa..mtundu oipa uwu…

  5. Pokhapa akweni mwayankhulako zanzeru. koma Musiye ku Mulhako kwanuko kuvinisa asikana mabele pa ntunda..Muzivina inuyo zimenezo chifukwa ma papaya anuwo palibe angawathamangile….Get out Muhlako

  6. okay fine they should not be dancing queens koma azikhala ma dancing queens ku ma cultural dances, dancing mabele ali pa mtunda? which one between the two is more respectable???? Seen on television half naked or dancing with clothes at a bridal shower. When attacking one side don’t leave out the other side. Girls are not trophies to be exposed like that.

  7. Nawonso atsikana aku Mulhakho asiye kumavina. Tamuoneni Vuwayo enjoying the boobs not the dance. Ala!

  8. On top of that amavala decently osati zonamazo. Kapena mumangomva bridal shower simunapiteko eti?

  9. Mayi Kaliati mukunama. I have attended numerous bridal showers but they all centered on Home management, grooming, financial management, communication, HIV/AIDS and others. Nothing about sex. After all using the girls would encourage them to follow the good example the bride to be has made so they can admire and plan to wed and not rush into getting pregnant before they wed. After all, the one to be married is a girl whose choice would inspire the teenage girls. Unless utakhala ukwati wa azigogo like the one you were in the bridal party, apo ndimva.

  10. I recommend Kaliati for this, it has been my concern really as well since the issues discussed during bridal showers do not necessarily concern the bride to be only but the girls aaround as well who are not mature to engage in sexual activities. Lets do a wide campaign on this and I thank the honourable minister for pointing out this issue. Those who have a girl child, a niece, a sister will appreciate what the minister is saying.

  12. Akweni suggestion on the make up, use dark brown eye liner not black. Use a lipstic that is not loud like brownish, burnt copper etc The pink u have used is loud try a soft pink, There is a girl Nitta from chitawira who can help u phoda to look natural. Loud colours are fo young ones and those who want to be noticed. You are mature woman like me whose looks wont matter much to men but the inside virtues. Jus suggestion.

  13. I salute Kaliati for this. In fact she is concerned about exposing these innocent kids to behaviours that are practised by mature women who know what they are doing. Some of you are talking about breasts exposed at Mulhakho function by mature women wabere lake. Kaliati is talking about our innocent kids not awa okudya za mcherewa.

  14. igree with Chidongo anawo ndi Za muhakho Bolani ziti? kusowa zokamba basi mwati media igwire ntchito pa ………………

  15. But it’s mostly only women who attend who attend bridal showers, so what are you implying Kaliati? Immoral behaviour between who? This woman needs to get her head checked.

  16. Mayi uyu sindinamoune pafupi koma nkhope yache njowopsya zedi. Amakhala negative wangodzuka kujaku

  17. Anthu inu nthawi zina kumayamiko zokamba munthu. Kungoti Kaliati amakamba zopanda nzeru basi kumangomudzudzula. Ine sindinapiteko ku bridal shower, koma ngati kumakhala ana lets give mai Kalia thumb up please.

  18. Anduna start with stopping girls exposing lustfully their breasts and michombo pa mlakho heritage ceremony. Look at how happy Vuwa is. He is salivating knowing kuti sizithera pompo, akanyambita basi. Muyisova ndimakudalirani.

  19. Kaliati is throwing stones in a glass house. Tikaona ku Mhlakho if the girls will not expose their bare breasts. Wafulumira kunena when Mhlakho festival is around the corner. Ndi zoona zija amati “kunena kwa ndithe ndithe nanthambwe anazitengera.” Siuyu Kaliati wagwira njakata.

  20. Kaliati I think is just trying to be concieved as a champion for girls’ rights. But she fails, partly because she doesnt know what she is talking about, and partly because she prefers bare-breasted girls at Mlakho wa A lomwe to dancing, well-clothed girls at briday showers. She is mad.

  21. Kaliati I think is just trying to be concieved as a champion for girls’ rights. But to she fails, partly because she doesnt know what she is talking about, and partly because she prefers bare-breasted girls at Mlakho wa A lomwe to dancing, well-clothed girls at briday showers. She is mad.

  23. I think that’s a very good starting point as far as child protection is concern in our county. Lets promote that as a whole in fight against abuse and exploitation. Don’t allow our children being manipulated by adults, Change is gradual! Keep up advocating madam.

  25. I wonder what this lady is talking about, I thought she is the the very same one who is seen very happy at Muhlako wa Alomwe watching and joining bare breasted girls dancing and eating gondolosi? By the way, it is not at shower that the girls dance but at Chinkhoswe and wedding. If Patricia is talking in good faith, we will not see these girls at the ceremony this month otherwise shut up! and find something new to discuss.

  26. There are a lot of practices that need to be checked;this is just one of them! Teen girls in the pubs, our mlakho, forms of night events eg night prayers,these so called
    discos in sec schools,etc. Good starting point! Bravoooooo DPP

  29. kodi mulakho walomwe nokhanokha nanu atsikana tanthete mukamawasiya mawere panja mumatanthauza chani ?izo ndizomwe zikuyambisanso uhule kumalawi kuno nduna dzanuzo zimakopeka ndikabere kamwana wa zaka 16 kodi atamufusila tidziti angakane choyamba uthese kaye mavaliudwe anu pamulakho walomwe mwamva

  31. Chitsiru cha munthu ichi…. ukaletse kaye atsikana amaonetsa mabele pamtunda ku mlakho wanuko… mxiiiii

  32. Zoona anduna,mfundo imeneyi ikufunika kuona bwino,komanso ngati kotheka muyang’ane mbali zonse malinga ndi zikhalidwe za wanthu.Monga mwambo wathu uja ukufunika kuganinizira chifukwa zimaonjeza.

  33. AGREE WITH YOU 100%

    ALSO LET US LOOK AT YOUR FACE MAKE UP. IT IS SENDING WRONG MASSAGE TO OUR YOUNG GENERATION. YOU WERE IN LONDAN, DID YOU SEE ANYBODY WEARING MAKE UP LIKE THAT IN PUBLIC? UNLESS YOU ARE A HOKER.

    ITS ABOUT TIME YOU NEED TO SHOW THE NATION A NEW CHAPTER. PLEASE KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK

  35. if that is true hon akwaene ban life skills in primary , ban all traditions that expose part of the sacreed body then you can do that ….mabere atsikana kumalakho ali njoooooooo nsawasilile kkkkkkk

  36. KOMA A MAYI WATHU MWAKONGOLA PAMENEPA !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! KEEP IT UP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LYOLYOLOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MORE FIRE AKWENI !!!!!!!!!!!

  38. I have always been negative to you Kaliati, But let me appreciate you for the first time that TODAY you have talked sense. If government can help to check this rubbish practice that entice our little girls, will be the most welcome idea from DPP government.

    Bravo Akweni, musawanyengelele azimayi oipa mtima azitsutsana nanu koma go ahead Minister, the practices are engraving our nation.

  41. Oh shut up kaliati. Palibe cha mzeru chomwe ukunena apa. You have no ideas hence trying to appear relevant. Stupid bitch. We will fuck those girls bridal shower or no bridal shower

  42. By the way kodi ndi nkhope ya munthu kapena ganda ya nkhumba ndikuwonayi? Mayi ndinu nduna pano, please improve, nthawi ya ambi shubaba inatha!Kkkkkkkkkkkkkk DPP woyeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

  43. Mai Kaliati, think so deeply before saying anything! Osango bwebwetuka ngati wamisala kapena unamwa masatcheti a Joy!!!!. First of all sex education is being taught in primary schools (Life Skills). Children are being taught sex education (kugonana), HIV and AIDS etc as early as Std 4. Is that promoting sexuality? I can go on and on to give examples but the bottom line is that your concerns are misplaced. Its a tradition we cannot just throw out just like that. I have never seen a Chinkhoswe where girls were dressed ‘literally almost naked” as you put it. I therefore conclude that is you Hon ‘Akweni” Kaliati who is morally “immoral’ and socially “unsocial”. Tell us something better!

  48. the honorable is not insinuating to say there is prostitution because the little girls’ involvement, but as the adage goes mtengo timaongola ulu wa ung’ono lets give a chance to our little queens by not exploiting them. enanu nkhani ya uhule munachita kubadwa nayo. osaika anduna mau mkamwa

  53. bodzatu iri iwe Kaliyati. kumene ana amavina naked ndi kuti? uziletsa atsikana aja amavina ku Mlakho wa alomwe aja osati ku bridal shower. mbuzi.

  54. ngati pali cha nzeru chimene patricia kaliati wa chita ndi nkhani yoti boma lilowererepo pakugwiritsa ana pa bridal shower inenso zimandinyasa taperekani zilangozo makolo timalephera kumasuka ife.akapezeka tipite naye kupolice?

  57. While i do appriciate the calls of our honorable minister here it is short of a law which would back her calls, she is one of the law makers why cant she prepair a bill to support her effort otherwise, this is a normal threat and bragging from akweni, unspecified action, what action without a law would be valuable here? grow up madam and do your job right other than just making noise

  58. This is the only sensible thing that has come out of this dirty mouth in recent years. looks like there are some good folks at her ministry who have been able lately to pump some sense in this dickhead.

  60. Malawi is indeed a land of stupidity!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! a country full of hypocrites!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it is very sad to notice that out of all the problems that the country is grappling with, the entire cabinet minister is busy with trivial issues!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! are you sure madam kaliyati, uhule ulli mmalawi muno is as a result of bridal showers!!!!!!!!!!!!

  61. Bravo Hon. Kaliati. Our young girls are really abused during those functions, sometimes they even use 5 to 10 year olds.

  63. Fact Akweni…..this is really true…kale akati bridal shower imakhala ya azimayi okwatila ndi okhwima mzeru okhaokha ndicholinga cholangiza namwali amene akumbekezela kulowa mmbanja. koma lero ndi ana omwe akumapezeka ku shower kumamva nawo nkhani zolawula zimene zilizoposa mapilikanilo awo and this is indeed an abuse to them. lets think otherwise.

  65. true mama. why include girls ku malo kwa mwambo ngati umene uja. just to add on to this let us stop using public address systems if indeed this is for the matured people …it does not make sense kukaniza ana kulowa koma azingomva? funny. Its business ndiye vuto lake. mwanmbo wa kuchipinda bwanji timasankha opita? sankhaninso oyenerera kukamva bridal shower. thumbs up to akweni.auzeni azimaiwa. unless they censor it to suit the situation which also is bad for the young couple mumangowapala kuopa ana amva kuti amai uje amalankhula izi? Tichedwepo pamenepa

  69. Chaka chino ku Mulhakho wa Alomwe, atsikana asaonetse mabele, makamaka amene aja ndiye amataika kwambiri kusiyananso ndi a mma bridal shower. Mai zigwirani ntchito ku capital hill osati zimenezi

  70. That’s the akweni I know,that’s very true, Jessie Kabwira,you need to second the idea,you are in the same ministry not as enemies but co-workers,you have to complement one onother and make the women fork vibrant

  71. Sure, agreed. Not even during weddings.
    Psychological exposure to marriage while young and at school. There a lot of young school leavers, or marrieds to be involved in bridal showers and weddings. Why expose school girls to marriage activities. They also admire to be the weds!!!!

  72. For once, I would agree with Kaliati.

    Mchiuno mwamwana simufa nkhuku, zikavinani nonkha osationongera tianatathuti

  73. But she is the one who insisted that girls should be married at 16 during the ruling of Bingu.

  74. I’m a little confused here, perhaps another reader can help me. Does Malawi have a white minister, Patricia Kaliati? I am from the UK and read Nyasa Times because of a holiday in Malawi a few years ago. I thought that all your politicians were black, but this woman looks like a European. Is this the case, and if so when did Malawians elect a white person? Is she the first white politician in Malawi and was it big news when it happened?

    Please leave a reply because I am intrigued by this. Thank you.

  77. kkkk nanga ma teenagers amapezeka ma night clubmu. pass a law that any teenager found in the clubs should be given strokes without mercy. osati awa amakhala ndi ma guardians ku ma shower ku

  79. It’s a good gesture esp in promoting young girls sticking to education other than rushing to premature marrieges.

  84. Kkkkkkk! Double standards!! She herself goes to Mulhakho Wa Alomwe celebrations every year where bare breasted young girls dance in front of huge crowds. Isn’t that abuse and be a cause of concern to her???

  85. amayi mwanena za nzeru pitilizani mukawauzenso Apeter ZOWAVINITSA ANA MABELE PA NTUNDA ZITHE TIONE NGATI SAKUCHOSANI U MINISTER

  87. Kudos Mayi Minister! Azimayi tanyanya. The things we are making these little girls do cannot go without censure. And you find that the one that “dikulaz” most is showered with money. What message are we sending to the young ones – that you can make money by wiggling your waist seductively – no need to work hard in school. Ndiye achidya makanda even target them at age 5,6,7 years just because wagwedeza chiuno modabwitsa (This also happens at chinkhoswe where men are in attendance). Cry my beloved Malawi.

  88. Has the Ministry of Gender researched on this and have evidence that participation of teenagers in bridalshowers as dancing queens lead to bad behaviour or are they saying these under assumptions?

  90. Even uhule among these young girls is very high nowadays…..go to the streets, nite clubs from six o’clock evening u will be surprised, This is not the Malawi I knew!!!

  91. Better ku Bridal Shower than ku Mulhako where girls dance almost naked before men. Kaliati should have been the last person to talk about this. May God punish hypocrites likes these others

  92. Kaliati just shut up. How about at mhlakho ceremony where even your own daughters are excluded from the naked parades of poor teens from your rural lhomwe belt. Hypocrisy nawenso yopanda nayo ulesi.

  94. big up Kaliati wachita bhoo heavy,,wakula pa Malawi ndi umbuli anthu ambili ndi mbuli ,, how can one allow her young gal to be used like that,, and tapitani mukaone ndix mu mukapeza tiyana tikungodikula paliponse kudikula kochita kunyamulila ,nsalu mkumangilila mu nchiunomu,tsono azimbambo akaona tiana totere amayenda njila za chidule

  95. The growing culture of immorality has, indeed, to be checked in our society. While harmful traditional practices that promote spread of infections and early marriages are being looked into, imported bad tendancies have also to be quickly checked. One has in mind the immoral dressing that is fast becoming fassionable amongst our youth and some elders who cannot accept that they are no longer teenagers. Hopefully the Minister can also address that for the betterment of our future generation.

  96. ANTHU ANASIYA KALEKALE ZIMENEZO. DANCERS THESE DAYS ARE WOMEN THEMSELVES. KOZOLOWERA KULONGOLORA KUTI MUZIPANGA NEWS AUZENI ANTHU ZOONA ZOMWE ZIKUCHITIKA.

  97. For the first time ever, I have heard Patricia Kaliati talking sense. Well done Akweni. Continue thinking like a woman.

  98. I agree with the minister, this practice is not good, indeed it promotes immoral behavior. But also the minister should discourage use of young girls to dance at the Lomwe events. At the Lomwe events the situation is even worse than at bridal showers, because the girls dance with breasts in the open.

  99. Hope this is extended to the mulakho half naked girls. I am a lomwe too and i have seen you patronising mulakho functions but during such events you enjoy girls nakedness so whats the difference? Sweep in your house first otherwise this is hypocracy. You pay a deaf ear on this serious issue deserving your so called serious action and instead you dwell and make noise on these petty issues. Start with mlakho girls and we will take you seriously.

  101. Zoona make, muunena zoona. Kumeneko azivina azimai okhaokha. Mwana wa zaka 11azikamva za momwe mwamuna amayenera kuchengeteredwa saakayesera? Let this be abolished…

  103. Spot on Kaliati. I totally agree with your position on this matter. Let those who are intending to marry and the overzealous women we have in our neighbourhoods dance themselves not children.

  104. These are the products anticipated from able ministers. Gone are the days when ministers just practiced business as usual. Bring us agenda that add value such as these. Thumbs up Madam Patricia K

  107. Kodi iwe, ukutiuza zimenezo pano osakayamba wakawalangiza amzako ku Mulhakho. Is that worse that the bare breasted girls that are paraded in front of salivating men in the name of culture?

  109. Chi nzukwa cheni cheni. Chosanduka from grave yard. Unakaletsaso mwamuna Wako uja kumachinda Ana.

    1. Tatiyeni tiyankhe zomwe wayankhula ndunazi abale.

      Zoonadi amuna ake aja amakonda phwando la a kakowa koma sizikugwilizana ndi zomwe zalembedwa. Mwina supita ku ma showers

  111. this is good. I was wondering that even amayi a mvano could let their children to dance almost half naked.

    We are busy kukwatira nd kukwatirana.

    Now Pastors stop showers on sunday. It is in the bible these parties should not be done on day of worshipping the Lord

  113. Indeed, young girls well being should be protected, unfortunately some from their own gardians, the world can cot afford at this down and age to continue the trend of watching the illtreatment of young girls, as a matter of fact, their protection must be ranked first priority in order for a bright future to be accomplished.
    Remember it is said, evil triamphs when the good do nothing. I am glad that some one has decided to break the chain.

  114. Koma ku mulhakho wa angulu ndiye atsikana adzikavina pamso pa president, nduna ndi dzidya makanda. Mai mukanayamba kuletsa zovina ku mulhakho mabele ali pa mtunda mumamva bwanji mu mtima mwanu. tikamaona matiti atsikana. Mwapelekakatu chitsanzo chabwino polankhulapo za shower komanso sikukhala abambo kumene kuja and mwina chikankhala chanzeru zikanayambila ku mulhakho wa angulu kuja.

  115. Kaliati kaliati kaliati, how worse is the case of girls being used as dancing queens at bridal showers than what you do with the girls at initiation camps (e.g. Jando). Your tribes keep these children at Jando even during school days where you teach them immoral things. That’s why they marry too early and have too many children who you use to vote for your party of Death, Plunder and Pilferage. That’s why HIV is also too rampant in your part of Malawi. And that’s why education failure rate and school-drop-out rate is very high in your part of Malawi. You’re wasting our time kaliati and your hairdo and cosmetics make you look like chidole, you woman wozikoka.

  117. Ever since I have heard Hon. Mrs Kaliati speak this is rated highly on her part. Madam, this is the way to go. Honourable Minister, I salute you. I know you are open minded person but this is in the right direction. Great!
    Some tradition and entertainment practices need to be seen with a different eye to appreciate their merits and demerits.
    You have my Vote. I also believe many fellow citizens will support you.
    The good news is that you will never be alone.

    Have our blessings.

  119. There are real issues that the minister should adress and not these simple and cheap tissues. Checkout in beer clubs and alot of places where girls are doing imoralities. Check out with Chez, Wakawaka, Culture club, Zanzi bar Bwandilo, Golf club shows. These places contains very young girls prostituting with men. Bridal showers doesnt encourage imorality

  121. This is your job of promoting Gender Awareness Activities and safeguarding Girl-Child Education and not castigating and undermining the Former President Dr Joyce Banda…

    Peter Mutharika and First Lady be aware that this woman was at the Centre of Bingu’s Death because she had an audience with him gossipping about other personalities in the Party! She is close to you to continue making bad your already indexed name through gossipping to win favours from you! Everytime she is with you sacrificing her duties as Minister of Gender…

    Kaliati is a woman of contradictions,when you ask her what she said ten minutes ago,she will say something else,if you remind her about what she said earlier on she will deny by saying that she never said it all! Kaliati is the best liar and a good gossipper!

  125. Zoona akweni amatisowesa mtendere ngakhale ife ma Dj,almost naked amatanthauza chani?kapena nawoso amafuna achoke atapeza?muyambileso kumawakwizinga tatopa nkuona litsilo la kunsana kwawo ndi malo ena…

  126. Very true Kaliati. You are indeed straight to the point. I have been murmuring inside myself, why in bridal showers young girls are dancing and also take part in ‘kulanga namwali’ the one to get married. Amamvela zonse and i dont feel confortable at all.

    Most of these girls are school going and in bridal showers they talk sensitive issues which only married couples or big women shud participate.

    Good advise and warning

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